13 February 2012

How to Maintain Romance

Hello dear friends.. How have you been?.. 
All of us should know by now that tomorrow will be the celebration of Valentine's Day. 
So what's your plans for your partner?..  The idea of celebrating this love celebration is to appreciate your partner of all thing she/he had done for you. To be grateful as he/she always be there for you. Valentine's Day could be everyday. Don't wait until the month of February.. :)

Okay now, I'm sharing with you these tips on how to maintain romance with your partner. Hoping that these tips will help you to maintain your love relationship with your loved ones.

Talk as much as you can. Find some time to talk to each-other about what is going on in your life and share as much as you can. It is pretty important that you know what your partner is thinking about some topics in particular, like if she/he is feeling good about your relationship or not, or how she/he is doing at work. It is also pretty important for you to talk to your partner about your feelings and how things are doing in your life. 

  • Try to find a good place and the right time to talk, like while you are eating at home or at a nice restaurant, or as soon as you get home from work you can invite him/her to join you for a walk.
  • Remember to be respectful. If you want to keep the magic in your relationship when it comes to talk you have to be respectful to your partner. That means that if you don't agree with something she/he said or did you have to let her/him know in the best way. Try not to be rude, no matter how much it bothers you.
  • Show your partner how interested you are about what she/he has to say. Ask her/him about what is going on in her/his life and how does she/he feel about it.

Tell the truth. Truth is the ultimate aphrodisiac and a great way to create connection with your partner. For example, you might say "I feel safe when I am with you" or "Sometimes I feel scared that we get so busy with other things that we forget about creating close moments together, but I really want to be close with you." Just share your true feelings and speak from your experience. If you are concealing in your relationship, you will not feel connected, so consider making truth an ongoing priority in your life. 

Appreciate yourself and your partner. Appreciation means "to grow in value, or to be sensitively aware of." Take time to understand just what it is that you like about yourself, and your partner. Saying for example, "I am doing a good job as a parent by taking time to hug the kids in the morning before they go off to school." or "I really appreciate how dedicated you are to your job." Successful relationships have a 5 to 1 ratio of appreciations to criticisms, so if you really want to heat up your relationship, start appreciating!
  • Get involved in your partner's life. It is pretty important for a couple to admire each-other and care about each-other as well. Try to show your partner how much you care and that you want to be a great part of her/his life.
  • Try to talk about what you like of each-other. It is a nice way to remember what you love about being together and it will make you two feel great about your relationship. Compliment each-other.

Listen. All humans crave being seen and heard. Being with your partner, and really listening to them can be magical for you both. Often, we want to fix their problems, but it is much more powerful to listen. Saying, "Wow, I can understand you are frustrated." or "That must have been hard on you." Let your partner know you're hearing them. 

Create romance within yourself first. We often try to "get" our partners to be more romantic by believing we need to change them in order to have what we want. The truth is that you are much more likely to have what you want when 'you' show up in that way. For example, create your own romantic mood--dress, put on music, prepare sensuous foods, take some time to love and appreciate yourself. It will not take long for your partner to join in the fun!

Ask for what you want. Let your partner know that you are deeply interested in spending some romantic time with them (You would be surprised at how often they are unaware of this.) Whining, demanding, and manipulating are contrary to creating romance, so do your best to ask using kind and loving words.

Bring play back into your relationship. If you find yourself feeling unromantic, ask yourself when was the last time the two of you had fun together. Just plain, silly fun. Doing something like going to an arcade, playing a game, watching a comedy...anything that you may have enjoyed while you were dating or even when you were kids can help you to stay connected. Laugh a lot! Levity is a sexy thing. If you are stuck in thoughts of how much housework you have to do, or that you might wake the kids, more than likely you will not feel romantic. Laugh about the ways that you take your self out of a romantic mood, and soon, you will be back in it.

Speak your partner's love language. We often express love for our spouse in the way we want to receive it. But that is not necessarily the way they need to receive it. Ask your spouse what you can do to make them feel loved and share the same with them. When you give love to your spouse in a way that meets their particular needs, they become more open to expressing love in a way that meets your needs. If you do not share these needs with each other, you can become confused and disappointed .

Accept each other unconditionally, respect each others wishes and dislikes. Keep the mystery and fascination to each other. Love each moment as if it is the last.

Give respect to your partner. Try to give respect to your partner. Don't underestimate him/her, but try develop confidence in him/her so that you both could get closer for a long time - maybe even a lifetime. 

Be tolerant. Try to understand that being together does not mean being the same person or agreeing in everything. Start tolerating the difference between you two. If you don't agree with something take a deep breath and remember that it is not your partner's obligation to think like you.

Be there for your partner. Be supportive to your partner's needs and always make time for her/his emotional needs.

source: wikihow.com


  1. "Accept each other unconditionally, respect each others wishes and dislikes." - this part I found from my beloved hubby.

    Thanks for the sharing StellaClaire (^^)

    1. really.. sweet oh kamurang..bagus laitu.. :)

  2. kalau si Aki, paling la penting tu be tolerant.. kadang2 ada pasangan yang nampak memang durang la sudah tu, tapi pasal tia dapat bertoleransi, trus hangkang kijap.. susah juga kan.. btw, nice sharing Sis.. THanks.. Happy Valentine to you Sis!! ^_^.v.. kirim salam Baby Gabriel ko ah?? ^_^.v..

    1. betul..sya sukung hehehe... ba suda sya kasi sampai salam si angkol Aki hehehe

    2. angkol lagi tu.. bida oh.. si Aki bilang.. cukup la.. ha ha ha..

  3. Agree with Aki, toleransi itu sangat penting dalam sesuatu perhubungan. Kalau tiada toleransi macam mana mau hidup di bawah satu bumbung kan...
    Masalah sentiasa ada, kalau tiada toleransi silap-silap perkara yang boleh selesai secara simple jadi complicated...

    1. iya..harus ada timbang rasa dlm sesebuah perhubungan, baru lah aman damai rumahtangga hehehe

  4. Ya..setuju2..Mesti ada toleransi satu sama lain...Thanks for sharing...

    1. welkam hehehe...bertoleransi memanjang kan usia hubungan suami isteri hehehe

  5. Thanks for sharing...good info to read n implement..

  6. Thanks for the tips Stella... It's all true... Wow... Expert o stella... I like! Hehe... Tapi tahun ini, tidak dapat sya celebrate dengan baby sya... huhuhu... Anyway... Will do as what you share here... Yeahhh...

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