Marriage Helps Your brain

Yesterday i read one interesting article from msn. It's about relationship and marriage. To make it short, here i share with all of you what make me feel it is interesting.

How Marriage Helps Your Brain
by Thomas Crook, PhD, Prevention

1.Take dancing lessons
The combined physical and mental challenge is a great brain workout.

2.Watch movies and discuss the plot and characters
Research shows that men and women use different areas of the brain when viewing films, resulting in different perspectives and insights.

3.Throw a party for a diverse group and then debrief each other the next day
Areas of the brain involved in learning and memory can be stimulated by social interaction, and you may be surprised at how differently the two of you interpret the evening's party politics.

4.Learn a language together
Gradually incorporate new words and phrases into your conversations. Or sign up for Merriam-Webster's "Word of the Day." It's a free service (m-w.com) that delivers the definition and origin of a new word via e-mail each day.

5.Take on a home project to learn each other's skills
There is no reason a wife can't rewire a lamp or, speaking from experience, a husband can't learn about wall colors other than white. At the very least, learning new skills together gives you and your spouse something to talk about other than the kids and work.

No Need To Say Goodbye..

I really love this song by Regina Spektor. It is so meaningful and the melody of the song is nice to hear too.


THE CALL by REGINA SPEKTOR

It started out as a feeling
Which then grew into a hope
Which then turned into a quiet thought
Which then turned into a quiet word

And then that word grew louder and louder
Til it was a battle cry

I'll come back
When you call me
No need to say goodbye

Just because everything's changing
Doesn't mean it's never
Been this way before

All you can do is try to know
Who your friends are
As you head off to the war

Pick a star on the dark horizon
And follow the light

You'll come back
When it's over
No need to say good bye

You'll come back
When it's over
No need to say good bye..

Now we're back to the beginning
It's just a feeling and no one knows yet
But just because they can't feel it too
Doesn't mean that you have to forget

Let your memories grow stronger and stronger
Til they're before your eyes

You'll come back
When they call you
No need to say good bye

You'll come back
When they call you
No need to say good bye..

Memories..

I still remember when I used to be a small kid. I never thought about future or about current news, money or anything. Owh..what a bliss being a small kid. What we used to do is playing, went to school, met friends, watching tv and etc.. If I can turn back time, I want to be small kid again. Never worried about anything and all are provide by our parents.
Nowadays, as adult we have to worry about everything, from money, relationship and etc..

Which is Right?

Not long ago,I received an email from one of my old friend, asking me how to choose a better person for her life. A better man, a right man, a prince charming and a soulmate. She said he know this guy who is really sweet and good to her. After went out with him for few months, she somehow accidentally met her previous friend. A male friend who used to be good to her too. Now she dilemma to choose between that guys.

As she wants some opinion and advice from me. I give some advice and the way of my thinking towards her dilemma.

They are;

1. Pray. First of all pray to God. Ask Him what best for you. Ask for guidance and blessing.

2. Don't rush. Give yourself sometime. Don't too rush to make the decision to choose between them.

3. Stick to one. I mean if the current boyfriend is really already too good for you, why you should left him just because the other look more nice. No, this is not encouragable. Remember, you cannot get all what you want. Both you should build the happiness together.

4. Praise to God. Praise to God and thank God you found him. Take him for what he is.

5. Do happy things together. Do happy things together and try to remember it for all of you life. As you in happy state, there is no time for you to look other guy. Same as him.

6. Choose from your heart. Follow you heart. If things happen that you have to choose between them, you must know which one is really want you. I mean who are really want you to be his best person in his life. The one who respect you and of course loves you as well treat you well. He accept you as who you are and willing to lead you to a better person or better life and a kind of who thinks religion is very important. This guy should be in.

7. Don't be too choosy. You know what is its' effect to you if you do so.

So these are all what I gave her. There are many more but i didn't have time to write it all. However, i mentioned to her that this is not a guarantee what best for her. These are just a guide. If things workout because of these advice, i myself am very happy for her.

Time will reveal. Back to basic. It's all in God's hand. We should follow His way. He will guide us.